One of the most annoying things about being a married woman 👩 without children 👶🏻 is that everyone is constantly asking you when you are going to have your own ones. People feel sorry for the couple who intentionally choose not to have a baby. I was on the right side of 30 when I got married and the potential of my uterus was always questioned at gatherings🤦🏻♀️
🦋Today’s talk is a personal one yet something crucial to talk about and normalize🦋
Why can’t we normalize women who are married and don’t want kids? 🤔Or normalize women who choose mothering over career (and not see their professional certificates as being wasted)? Normalize women who wants one kid and not an army? Normalize women who want both kids AND career (by choice)? Normalize women who suffer from ‘separation anxiety’ leaving her baby back home? Normalize women who are rediscovering their potentials halfway through life 🤷🏻♀️
There is a common misconception in our mindset that marriage means children. Why can’t we normalize women being multi-faceted, who don’t have to fit in the socially commanded role for the comfort of others?
Motherhood is a personal calling, be it initial years of marriage or a decade later. I know couples who have brought 👶🏻 into this world just to fit into the patriarchy or because they want someone to take care of them when they are old AND I think that’s SELFISH!
To be a mother was my calling but I also align with the idea 100% to back all women, choosing whatever calling feels most fulfilling to them, even if that means defeating the patriarchy.
To end, I.n.f.e.r.t.i.l.i.t.y is real. Personally, I know so many people who have struggled with this. I can’t imagine what that feels like and if that is you, please know, I am sending you hugs🤗 and support❤️.
🦋One day you will tell the story of how you overcame what you went through and it will be someone else’s survival guide 🦋
– Brene Brown.
Do you align with me on this? I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences on this.